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trying to be comfortable in my own skin

This week I slipped in my parking lot and ruined my favorite jeans.  You know which ones I’m talking about?  The ones you feel great in and fit perfectly every day you wear them. Your comfy, cute, go-to jeans.  I ruined those.  I went on a quest to replace them.  I walked through the store picking up jeans I liked in multiple sizes and soon I had over t-w-e-n-t-y pairs of jeans in my arms.  One adorable sales clerk came to my rescue to get a dressing room started and she asked if I wanted help narrowing down my selection.  Um, yes please!  She asked what I loved and hated about the pair of jeans I was wearing and what brand they were.  In the middle of answering her questions another nearby sales associated scoffed and said X brand of jeans weren’t made to be worn by someone my size.


She later went on to say some other pretty brutal things.  I didn’t have a problem not letting her use my clothing toward her monthly sales goals when she wanted to ring up my purchase.  I told her nicely what she said wasn’t okay.  I went to the kinder associate to ring up my items.  Really, I’m really disappointed to say that I let this get under my skin.  Now I’m not posting my story and feelings to get pity or sympathy.  I’m posting this because I am certain that I am not the only person who struggles with feeling comfortable in their own skin.

Honestly,  this has been a lifelong struggle for me.

One blessing in my life has been my neighbor Tara.  Tara used to work at an eating disorder clinic.  We’ve had many talks about food, nutrition, perception of our bodies, how scales are evil and healthy living is key.  After my pant shopping experience I knew Tara would say the right things that I needed to hear.  Not because she was blowing sunshine my way but because she should really be an inspirational speaker for teaching people about self acceptance.

You want to know who I am?

I’m a person who doesn’t always have it together.  I’m retraining myself to have balance in my life after 7 months of having gallbladder problems deplete my emotional, physical and spiritual reserves.  I love to cook, eat and try new foods.  I’m trying learning to enjoy exercise.  I’m an awesome wife  😉   I’m a hard worker.  I try to be a great friend.  I’m a makeup addict.  In my favorite words from the book,  The Help, I is kind.  I is smart.  I is important.’

I’m a pretty awesome person. Some days…I just forget.   My goal for you and for me, is to have more days that we remember our awesomeness!


Thanks Cindy for this photo of me cheesing it while doing jazz hands for the camera!


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  • Ryan - You left out fabulous sister in law and incredible aunt. Sad you had an unpleasant experience, but more happy that you were able to flip it into something positive. You are important. Love ya!ReplyCancel

  • Chelsea Lewis - B! You are one of the most gorgeous women I know, and truly, I’m grateful for your friendship! I’m with Ryan. You know you are a beautiful person when you can turn an experience like that into a positive and encourage others to be positive with you!

    Good luck with finding a new favorite pair of jeans! I TOTALLY know the feeling! Jeans are like shoes and you have to break them in!


  • Melissa - You are amazing! If I were with you I would have given that chick a piece of my mind not “kindly” I love you and think you are awesome. I think we all need a reminder to find the good in ourselves. So thank you!ReplyCancel

  • Susan - Well, I hope you already know this, but I think you are amazing; beautiful inside and out! Love you lots and I can’t wait to see you hopefully SOON!!ReplyCancel

  • Sarah Shaw - That was a real inspiring post Belinda! It’s so refreshing to hear somebody be confidant about what they are and not focus on what they’re not, I’m going to do that. Thank you for opening up! I too have had a lot of ups and downs with my body and focusing on just accepting myself has been a process, glad I’m not alone!ReplyCancel

  • kristin - belinda, i love this. i love YOU!ReplyCancel

  • Christy - Ditto to what Ryan said!! You are an awesome, amazing person, and shallow people who just can’t see that are really missing out. I really dislike mean people, and respect your gentle confrontation with her. I am so glad you married my brother-in-law and became my sister!!! YOU ROCK!! You is kind, smart, important, beautiful, amazing, talented, caring…

    I could go on and on, but it’s time for me to get my awesome bum off the couch and bake an awesome Birthday cake!ReplyCancel

  • Cindy Steel - Awesome post, Belinda. I think it’s one we can all relate too! Love the pic! 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Janice Brown - I LOVE LOVE LOVE the picture and you are an inspiration to me and so many others. You should add to your list that you are an attentive and loving daughter. You IS kind…you IS smart…you IS important!!! Thanks for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • Tara - You ARE kind, smart, and important! And I love our talks. And I’m blushing a little from all the nice things you said about me. I’m glad we’re neighbors!!ReplyCancel

  • Wendy - Wow, some people. Just wanting to insert my opinion………You ROCK!!!!! I’M blesses to have you in my family. We are lucky to have you. When you find your new jeans let us know. I am in need of a good pair that makes me feel less then 35:)ReplyCancel

  • kirstin roper - you are very much an inspiration! I am looking forward to hanging out and chatting very soon!ReplyCancel

  • janey - Well put, Belinda! Thanks for being so brave as to put yourself out there like that. I’m glad to know you… even if it’s only on the Internets. 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Yvonne - As I was reading this I couldn’t help but think…You are Awesome!! Great post!! Such a cute and fabulous photo! Love that you can see/feel your cute personality come through in it. 🙂ReplyCancel

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